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BrendonTowle<p>I’ve written about this before, but it’s still true. I know that I’m blessed. I know that I have plenty to be grateful for. I know the benefits of gratitude, both from a research perspective and from a visceral, personal experience perspective. And yet, gratitude is something that I have to remind myself to do.</p><p>I’ve been playing with a morning practice of gratitude along with my meditation routine, and I’ve found it helpful as a way to shift my mind, even if just for a bit, into that space. But, even if it only lasts a few seconds, it makes gratitude more easily achieved for the rest of the day. Who doesn’t want that?</p><p>What’s your favorite way to remind yourself to be grateful? Let me know!</p><p><a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/limitingbeliefs" class="mention hashtag" rel="tag">#<span>limitingbeliefs</span></a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/stuckinthinking" class="mention hashtag" rel="tag">#<span>stuckinthinking</span></a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/ownyourattitude" class="mention hashtag" rel="tag">#<span>ownyourattitude</span></a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/ownyourlife" class="mention hashtag" rel="tag">#<span>ownyourlife</span></a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/mindshift" class="mention hashtag" rel="tag">#<span>mindshift</span></a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/gratitude" class="mention hashtag" rel="tag">#<span>gratitude</span></a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/attitudeofgratitude" class="mention hashtag" rel="tag">#<span>attitudeofgratitude</span></a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/intentionalgrowth" class="mention hashtag" rel="tag">#<span>intentionalgrowth</span></a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/mentalfitness" class="mention hashtag" rel="tag">#<span>mentalfitness</span></a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/blessed" class="mention hashtag" rel="tag">#<span>blessed</span></a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/emotionalhealth" class="mention hashtag" rel="tag">#<span>emotionalhealth</span></a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/emotionalfitness" class="mention hashtag" rel="tag">#<span>emotionalfitness</span></a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/stressmanagement" class="mention hashtag" rel="tag">#<span>stressmanagement</span></a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/professionalcoach" class="mention hashtag" rel="tag">#<span>professionalcoach</span></a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/successmindset" class="mention hashtag" rel="tag">#<span>successmindset</span></a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/mindsetcoaching" class="mention hashtag" rel="tag">#<span>mindsetcoaching</span></a></p>
BrendonTowle<p>Since most of us judge ourselves by other people’s personas, and since most people put on a confident show most of the time, it’s easy to think that being certain and confident is a requirement. It’s not. Being human comes with having doubts, or being unsure, or wondering what our place really is.</p><p>As I embrace my humanity and let go of the need to be perfect, I get to be more comfortable showing up in the world. I also become more effective, because I’m not fighting against my own mind as much. If you have doubts, that’s okay. And, if you’re struggling with your doubts, feel free to reach out for a free consult to see how I can help.</p><p>What’s your favorite way to remember that it’s okay to be human? Let me know!</p><p><a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/limitingbeliefs" class="mention hashtag" rel="tag">#<span>limitingbeliefs</span></a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/stuckinthinking" class="mention hashtag" rel="tag">#<span>stuckinthinking</span></a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/ownyourattitude" class="mention hashtag" rel="tag">#<span>ownyourattitude</span></a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/ownyourlife" class="mention hashtag" rel="tag">#<span>ownyourlife</span></a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/mindshift" class="mention hashtag" rel="tag">#<span>mindshift</span></a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/selfawareness" class="mention hashtag" rel="tag">#<span>selfawareness</span></a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/thinkingtraps" class="mention hashtag" rel="tag">#<span>thinkingtraps</span></a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/personalresponsibility" class="mention hashtag" rel="tag">#<span>personalresponsibility</span></a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/mentalfitness" class="mention hashtag" rel="tag">#<span>mentalfitness</span></a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/emotionalhealth" class="mention hashtag" rel="tag">#<span>emotionalhealth</span></a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/emotionalfitness" class="mention hashtag" rel="tag">#<span>emotionalfitness</span></a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/stressmanagement" class="mention hashtag" rel="tag">#<span>stressmanagement</span></a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/professionalcoach" class="mention hashtag" rel="tag">#<span>professionalcoach</span></a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/successmindset" class="mention hashtag" rel="tag">#<span>successmindset</span></a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/mindsetcoaching" class="mention hashtag" rel="tag">#<span>mindsetcoaching</span></a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/okaytodoubt" class="mention hashtag" rel="tag">#<span>okaytodoubt</span></a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/okaytobeunsure" class="mention hashtag" rel="tag">#<span>okaytobeunsure</span></a></p>
BrendonTowle<p>I’ve gotten much better at this, but there was a long period of time when I was too quick to insert myself in situations where I really didn’t belong. My intentions were almost always good, but I’d offer unsolicited advice, or try to problem-solve when compassion or empathy were more appropriate. Or, I’d try to be an active participant in a situation where I was really just a spectator.</p><p>Today, I find that I’m much calmer and serene as a result of keeping myself out of situations where I don’t belong. As a consequence, I’m much more able to be effective in the situations where I do belong.</p><p>How about you? What are your favorite strategies for remembering what is and isn’t an appropriate place for you to act? Let me know!</p><p><a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/limitingbeliefs" class="mention hashtag" rel="tag">#<span>limitingbeliefs</span></a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/stuckinthinking" class="mention hashtag" rel="tag">#<span>stuckinthinking</span></a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/ownyourattitude" class="mention hashtag" rel="tag">#<span>ownyourattitude</span></a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/ownyourlife" class="mention hashtag" rel="tag">#<span>ownyourlife</span></a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/mindshift" class="mention hashtag" rel="tag">#<span>mindshift</span></a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/selfawareness" class="mention hashtag" rel="tag">#<span>selfawareness</span></a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/thinkingtraps" class="mention hashtag" rel="tag">#<span>thinkingtraps</span></a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/intentionalgrowth" class="mention hashtag" rel="tag">#<span>intentionalgrowth</span></a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/personalresponsibility" class="mention hashtag" rel="tag">#<span>personalresponsibility</span></a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/mentalfitness" class="mention hashtag" rel="tag">#<span>mentalfitness</span></a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/emotionalhealth" class="mention hashtag" rel="tag">#<span>emotionalhealth</span></a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/emotionalfitness" class="mention hashtag" rel="tag">#<span>emotionalfitness</span></a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/stressmanagement" class="mention hashtag" rel="tag">#<span>stressmanagement</span></a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/professionalcoach" class="mention hashtag" rel="tag">#<span>professionalcoach</span></a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/successmindset" class="mention hashtag" rel="tag">#<span>successmindset</span></a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/mindsetcoaching" class="mention hashtag" rel="tag">#<span>mindsetcoaching</span></a></p>
BrendonTowle<p>One of my favorite strategies for getting out of limiting beliefs or paranoid, unpleasant thinking is to ask myself “How do I know? What’s my evidence? Where’s my proof? How else could I explain this?” and then take the exercise seriously.</p><p>Almost every time I try that, I find that I don’t actually know. My head is just making things up, and not to my benefit. If I can seriously go through this exercise, it almost always seriously shifts my attitude.</p><p>How about you? What are your favorite strategies for getting out of limiting beliefs? Let me know!</p><p><a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/limitingbeliefs" class="mention hashtag" rel="tag">#<span>limitingbeliefs</span></a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/stuckinthinking" class="mention hashtag" rel="tag">#<span>stuckinthinking</span></a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/ownyourattitude" class="mention hashtag" rel="tag">#<span>ownyourattitude</span></a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/mindshift" class="mention hashtag" rel="tag">#<span>mindshift</span></a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/selfawareness" class="mention hashtag" rel="tag">#<span>selfawareness</span></a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/alwaysthinking" class="mention hashtag" rel="tag">#<span>alwaysthinking</span></a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/thinkingtraps" class="mention hashtag" rel="tag">#<span>thinkingtraps</span></a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/personalresponsibility" class="mention hashtag" rel="tag">#<span>personalresponsibility</span></a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/mentalfitness" class="mention hashtag" rel="tag">#<span>mentalfitness</span></a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/emotionalhealth" class="mention hashtag" rel="tag">#<span>emotionalhealth</span></a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/emotionalfitness" class="mention hashtag" rel="tag">#<span>emotionalfitness</span></a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/stressmanagement" class="mention hashtag" rel="tag">#<span>stressmanagement</span></a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/professionalcoach" class="mention hashtag" rel="tag">#<span>professionalcoach</span></a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/successmindset" class="mention hashtag" rel="tag">#<span>successmindset</span></a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/mindsetcoaching" class="mention hashtag" rel="tag">#<span>mindsetcoaching</span></a></p>
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