Della Wren<p>Self-acceptance is very easy when you don't get sucked into the emotions, you don't go down a rabbit hole in your head, and you don't beat yourself up. </p><p>I'm able to quickly flip my attention to how this shift in my perspective changes how I see the things that happened in the past. </p><p>I'm not re-healing anything. I'm taking this new lens I'm calling guilt and using it to examine all the things I've already been through. How does that change how I used to see those same experiences? What new information does that offer me? </p><p>In my world those are fun questions. I actually enjoy getting those answers. It makes things make more sense. It offers me more clarity. I don't struggle with that part of it. Any new information is immediately accepted. I don't have a hammer and I don't beat myself up. I'm not scared of what I'm going to find. I don't go into emotional overwhelm.</p><p>I now realize that the powerlessness was actually a really thick branch off from the guilt. Powerlessness came from guilt, not the other way around. Ultimately it means that the powerlessness that I felt was actually just self-sabotage. Who knew?</p><p>Using powerlessness as a starting point for healing was fine. I don't regret that path. It worked. Because I was hell bent on taking my power back, it actually gave me more power to heal myself. It focused me on using the power I had in a way that was beneficial to me. It actually helped me do this more easily than if I had found the guilt first. </p><p>Finding the guilt first would have meant the self-sabotage would have been in play far more than it was. That's not to say that I didn't sabotage myself all over the place anyway, it just would have been different if I hadn't been focusing on the thing that was causing me to sabotage myself in the first place. </p><p>When you stay out of the emotions, you don't get sucked into the crazy in your head, and you accept what you find when you find it. Healing goes faster and much more smoothly when you do it like that. It's actually an exciting process instead of being a painful one. Who knew healing could be exciting!</p><p>I like finding this clarity. I enjoy this process. I get a kick out of looking back and questioning how I was seeing things and what this new lens does to my perspective. It's a good thing.</p><p>I can enjoy it because I don't allow the emotions that get kicked up to detour me or sway me in any way. If I need to cry it out for a minute, it'll happen and I won't be able to stop it. That's fine. But I promise you, it'll only be a minute and it won't deter me from what I've been doing. </p><p>Today was challenging but also awesome and I'm actually super excited about what I'll find as I go along. </p><p>I'll be asking questions for days now as I figure all this out. </p><p>This is what healing can look like when you have control over the process and it's not just chaos. It doesn't have to be the big, painful, crazy experience that we want to make it into. </p><p>Healing can actually be okay and even exciting. It really can. </p><p>Try using your natural curiosity as a way to heal and see how that changes things for you. </p><p>You really do get to be okay. It's possible.</p><p>Love to all. </p><p>Della </p><p><a href="https://c.im/tags/healing" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>healing</span></a> <a href="https://c.im/tags/exciting" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>exciting</span></a> <a href="https://c.im/tags/enjoyable" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>enjoyable</span></a> <a href="https://c.im/tags/notscary" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>notscary</span></a> <a href="https://c.im/tags/clarity" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>clarity</span></a> <a href="https://c.im/tags/selfacceptance" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>selfacceptance</span></a> <a href="https://c.im/tags/selfmastery" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>selfmastery</span></a> <a href="https://c.im/tags/truth" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>truth</span></a> <a href="https://c.im/tags/powerlessness" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>powerlessness</span></a> <a href="https://c.im/tags/guilty" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>guilty</span></a> <a href="https://c.im/tags/spirituality" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>spirituality</span></a> <a href="https://c.im/tags/consciousness" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>consciousness</span></a> <a href="https://c.im/tags/awareness" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>awareness</span></a></p>