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Heather Cook🖖Autistic Coach<p>Since I was largely following social scripts that I had learned before I knew I was Autistic, and would say things like, “I’m fine” when I didn’t mean it, or that I liked someone’s artwork when I really didn’t think it was that good: </p><p>I assumed that everyone else was being completely fake at all times, especially when they said that they liked me or valued me in any way.</p><p><a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/ActuallyAutistic" class="mention hashtag" rel="tag">#<span>ActuallyAutistic</span></a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/Autistic" class="mention hashtag" rel="tag">#<span>Autistic</span></a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/AuDHD" class="mention hashtag" rel="tag">#<span>AuDHD</span></a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/AutisticMasking" class="mention hashtag" rel="tag">#<span>AutisticMasking</span></a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/unmasking" class="mention hashtag" rel="tag">#<span>unmasking</span></a></p>
Kit Author<p>Why be authentic right now? (Feathermane Soul Wisdom)<br>Mid January 2024 the world changed in an instant. And for many communities, it just got a lot more dangerous to be your true, authentic self. Now, we know who we are regardless of what proclamations are signed or what othe<br><a href="https://musecharmer.eponaauthorsolutions.com/why-be-authentic-right-now-feathermane-soul-wisdom/" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" translate="no" target="_blank"><span class="invisible">https://</span><span class="ellipsis">musecharmer.eponaauthorsolutio</span><span class="invisible">ns.com/why-be-authentic-right-now-feathermane-soul-wisdom/</span></a><br><a href="https://wandering.shop/tags/FeathermaneSoulWisdom" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>FeathermaneSoulWisdom</span></a> <a href="https://wandering.shop/tags/Featured" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>Featured</span></a> <a href="https://wandering.shop/tags/AuthenticLiving" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>AuthenticLiving</span></a> <a href="https://wandering.shop/tags/authenticity" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>authenticity</span></a> <a href="https://wandering.shop/tags/AutisticMasking" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>AutisticMasking</span></a> <a href="https://wandering.shop/tags/CurrentEvents" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>CurrentEvents</span></a> <a href="https://wandering.shop/tags/neurodivergent" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>neurodivergent</span></a> <a href="https://wandering.shop/tags/queer" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>queer</span></a></p>
Heather Cook🖖Autistic Coach<p>How People Pleasing Prevents Positive Relationships </p><p><a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=V1j8EZXgxe0&amp;t=21s" target="_blank" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" translate="no"><span class="invisible">https://www.</span><span class="ellipsis">youtube.com/watch?v=V1j8EZXgxe</span><span class="invisible">0&amp;t=21s</span></a> </p><p><a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/ActuallyAutistic" class="mention hashtag" rel="tag">#<span>ActuallyAutistic</span></a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/Autistic" class="mention hashtag" rel="tag">#<span>Autistic</span></a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/AuDHD" class="mention hashtag" rel="tag">#<span>AuDHD</span></a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/AutisticMasking" class="mention hashtag" rel="tag">#<span>AutisticMasking</span></a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/unmasking" class="mention hashtag" rel="tag">#<span>unmasking</span></a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/healthycommunication" class="mention hashtag" rel="tag">#<span>healthycommunication</span></a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/healthyrelationships" class="mention hashtag" rel="tag">#<span>healthyrelationships</span></a></p>
Heather Cook🖖Autistic Coach<p>Growing up, I learned enough of those social rules to (more or less (kind of)) fit in, but there were lots of leaks around the edges. People could tell. I don’t think anyone was truly fooled. And damn, that was exhausting.</p><p><a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/AutisticMasking" class="mention hashtag" rel="tag">#<span>AutisticMasking</span></a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/ActuallyAutistic" class="mention hashtag" rel="tag">#<span>ActuallyAutistic</span></a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/Autistic" class="mention hashtag" rel="tag">#<span>Autistic</span></a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/AuDHD" class="mention hashtag" rel="tag">#<span>AuDHD</span></a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/Neurodiversity" class="mention hashtag" rel="tag">#<span>Neurodiversity</span></a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/ND" class="mention hashtag" rel="tag">#<span>ND</span></a></p>
Heather Cook🖖Autistic Coach<p>As you get more comfortable with your increasingly unmasked self, what do you hope may become possible that isn’t now? </p><p><a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/AskingAutistics" class="mention hashtag" rel="tag">#<span>AskingAutistics</span></a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/AutisticMasking" class="mention hashtag" rel="tag">#<span>AutisticMasking</span></a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/ActuallyAutistic" class="mention hashtag" rel="tag">#<span>ActuallyAutistic</span></a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/Autistic" class="mention hashtag" rel="tag">#<span>Autistic</span></a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/AuDHD" class="mention hashtag" rel="tag">#<span>AuDHD</span></a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/unmasking" class="mention hashtag" rel="tag">#<span>unmasking</span></a></p>
Heather Cook🖖Autistic Coach<p>You get to choose how much to unmask, with whom and where, and you never have to do more than you’re ready to do at that moment. </p><p><a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/AutisticMasking" class="mention hashtag" rel="tag">#<span>AutisticMasking</span></a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/ActuallyAutistic" class="mention hashtag" rel="tag">#<span>ActuallyAutistic</span></a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/Autistic" class="mention hashtag" rel="tag">#<span>Autistic</span></a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/AuDHD" class="mention hashtag" rel="tag">#<span>AuDHD</span></a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/unmasking" class="mention hashtag" rel="tag">#<span>unmasking</span></a></p>
Cattz :autism:<p><span class="h-card" translate="no"><a href="https://a.gup.pe/u/actuallyautistic" class="u-url mention" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">@<span>actuallyautistic</span></a></span> <a href="https://paquita.masto.host/tags/actuallyautistic" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>actuallyautistic</span></a> <a href="https://paquita.masto.host/tags/autistic" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>autistic</span></a> <a href="https://paquita.masto.host/tags/autisticMasking" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>autisticMasking</span></a> <br>I got permission from the author to bring this amazing comic about masking here.</p><p>If you like their work and want to help them you can become a Patron:<br><a href="https://www.patreon.com/c/autiebiographical" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" translate="no" target="_blank"><span class="invisible">https://www.</span><span class="ellipsis">patreon.com/c/autiebiographica</span><span class="invisible">l</span></a><br>Or check out their shop:<br><a href="https://www.autiebiographical.com/category/all-products" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" translate="no" target="_blank"><span class="invisible">https://www.</span><span class="ellipsis">autiebiographical.com/category</span><span class="invisible">/all-products</span></a></p><p>And I got their book (Xmas gift)!</p>
Mx Verda<p>wtf is the name of that autistic group on here? <br>And was it a profile bot thing or a hashtag? </p><p>It's a group thing you tag (somehow!) that then @s the rest of the people following it? </p><p>(Do I count as an <a href="https://lgbtqia.space/tags/AutisticElder" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>AutisticElder</span></a> if I'm over 30 years old?)</p><p>bwahahahah tis ActuallyAutistic, of both!</p><p><a href="https://lgbtqia.space/tags/autism" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>autism</span></a> <a href="https://lgbtqia.space/tags/autistic" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>autistic</span></a> <a href="https://lgbtqia.space/tags/autisticMasking" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>autisticMasking</span></a> <a href="https://lgbtqia.space/tags/AuDHD" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>AuDHD</span></a> <a href="https://lgbtqia.space/tags/AuHD" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>AuHD</span></a> <a href="https://lgbtqia.space/tags/ADHD" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>ADHD</span></a> <a href="https://lgbtqia.space/tags/ADHDbrain" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>ADHDbrain</span></a> <a href="https://lgbtqia.space/tags/AskFedi" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>AskFedi</span></a> <a href="https://lgbtqia.space/tags/AskMastodon" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>AskMastodon</span></a> <a href="https://lgbtqia.space/tags/Tech" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>Tech</span></a> <a href="https://lgbtqia.space/tags/TechHelp" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>TechHelp</span></a> <a href="https://lgbtqia.space/tags/TechSupport" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>TechSupport</span></a> <a href="https://lgbtqia.space/tags/Hashtag" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>Hashtag</span></a> <a href="https://lgbtqia.space/tags/HashtagSpam" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>HashtagSpam</span></a> <a href="https://lgbtqia.space/tags/ThankYou" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>ThankYou</span></a> <a href="https://lgbtqia.space/tags/Nerds" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>Nerds</span></a></p>
Heather Cook🖖Autistic Coach<p>The whole idea of unmasking is listening to yourself, so listen to yourself about what you feel okay with right now.</p><p><a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/unmasking" class="mention hashtag" rel="tag">#<span>unmasking</span></a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/AutisticMasking" class="mention hashtag" rel="tag">#<span>AutisticMasking</span></a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/ActuallyAutistic" class="mention hashtag" rel="tag">#<span>ActuallyAutistic</span></a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/Autistic" class="mention hashtag" rel="tag">#<span>Autistic</span></a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/AuDHD" class="mention hashtag" rel="tag">#<span>AuDHD</span></a></p>
Kerr9000<p>A video explaining Autistic Masking <a href="https://mastodon.social/tags/autism" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>autism</span></a> <a href="https://mastodon.social/tags/autistic" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>autistic</span></a> <a href="https://mastodon.social/tags/autisticmasking" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>autisticmasking</span></a> Check out Kerr's video! <a href="https://mastodon.social/tags/TikTok" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>TikTok</span></a> <a href="https://vm.tiktok.com/ZGdhB8Rwx/" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" translate="no" target="_blank"><span class="invisible">https://</span><span class="">vm.tiktok.com/ZGdhB8Rwx/</span><span class="invisible"></span></a></p>
Heather Cook🖖Autistic Coach<p>You get to choose how much you want to unmask, and with whom, and to what extent. </p><p><a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/AutisticMasking" class="mention hashtag" rel="tag">#<span>AutisticMasking</span></a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/unmasking" class="mention hashtag" rel="tag">#<span>unmasking</span></a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/AuDHD" class="mention hashtag" rel="tag">#<span>AuDHD</span></a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/ActuallyAutistic" class="mention hashtag" rel="tag">#<span>ActuallyAutistic</span></a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/Autistic" class="mention hashtag" rel="tag">#<span>Autistic</span></a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/Neurodiversity" class="mention hashtag" rel="tag">#<span>Neurodiversity</span></a></p>
olena<p>You know how sometimes you wouldn’t have noticed that someone is drunk if they didn’t try to behave ‘sober’ so hard? </p><p>To me, most embarrassing and awkward things in my life occurred when I tried to ‘act normal’ hardest, without having enough time/resources to do proper research about the environment and energy to fully stick to the chosen mask</p><p><a href="https://mementomori.social/tags/autisticMasking" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>autisticMasking</span></a> <br><a href="https://mementomori.social/tags/autism" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>autism</span></a><br><a href="https://mementomori.social/tags/neurodivergent" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>neurodivergent</span></a> <br><span class="h-card" translate="no"><a href="https://a.gup.pe/u/actuallyautistic" class="u-url mention" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">@<span>actuallyautistic</span></a></span></p>
Heather Cook🖖Autistic Coach<p>When we’re not presenting our real self, we don’t give the other people opportunities to actually get to know us. </p><p><a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/AutisticMasking" class="mention hashtag" rel="tag">#<span>AutisticMasking</span></a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/ActuallyAutistic" class="mention hashtag" rel="tag">#<span>ActuallyAutistic</span></a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/Autistic" class="mention hashtag" rel="tag">#<span>Autistic</span></a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/Neurodiversity" class="mention hashtag" rel="tag">#<span>Neurodiversity</span></a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/AuDHD" class="mention hashtag" rel="tag">#<span>AuDHD</span></a></p>
Heather Cook🖖Autistic Coach<p>Where I would suggest starting with unmasking, is simply notice when you’re doing it.</p><p><a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/unmasking" class="mention hashtag" rel="tag">#<span>unmasking</span></a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/AutisticMasking" class="mention hashtag" rel="tag">#<span>AutisticMasking</span></a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/ActuallyAutistic" class="mention hashtag" rel="tag">#<span>ActuallyAutistic</span></a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/Autistic" class="mention hashtag" rel="tag">#<span>Autistic</span></a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/Neurodiversity" class="mention hashtag" rel="tag">#<span>Neurodiversity</span></a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/AuDHD" class="mention hashtag" rel="tag">#<span>AuDHD</span></a></p>
Heather Cook🖖Autistic Coach<p>Some of us developed this masked self and that masked self actively hurts us for other people’s comfort. </p><p><a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/AutisticMasking" class="mention hashtag" rel="tag">#<span>AutisticMasking</span></a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/ActuallyAutistic" class="mention hashtag" rel="tag">#<span>ActuallyAutistic</span></a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/Autistic" class="mention hashtag" rel="tag">#<span>Autistic</span></a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/Neurodiversity" class="mention hashtag" rel="tag">#<span>Neurodiversity</span></a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/AuDHD" class="mention hashtag" rel="tag">#<span>AuDHD</span></a></p>
Tarren (They/Them)<p><span class="h-card" translate="no"><a href="https://tech.lgbt/@Lydie" class="u-url mention" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">@<span>Lydie</span></a></span> <span class="h-card" translate="no"><a href="https://ohai.social/@pitrouillesque" class="u-url mention" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">@<span>pitrouillesque</span></a></span> <span class="h-card" translate="no"><a href="https://neurodifferent.me/@theautisticcoach" class="u-url mention" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">@<span>theautisticcoach</span></a></span> <span class="h-card" translate="no"><a href="https://a.gup.pe/u/actuallyautistic" class="u-url mention" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">@<span>actuallyautistic</span></a></span> Like, if they only knew the price of that apparent high-functioning-ness. They don't see the times, after days on end of seeming high function, when we just crash and struggle to motivate for even the things we care deepest about, because we've spent all our energy on doing all the things we're expected to...<br>*** Additional Hashtags Here ***<br><a href="https://dragonscave.space/tags/ActuallyAutistic" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>ActuallyAutistic</span></a> <a href="https://dragonscave.space/tags/AuDHD" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>AuDHD</span></a> <a href="https://dragonscave.space/tags/neurodiverse" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>neurodiverse</span></a> <a href="https://dragonscave.space/tags/neurodivergence" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>neurodivergence</span></a> <a href="https://dragonscave.space/tags/AutisticMasking" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>AutisticMasking</span></a></p>
Heather Cook🖖Autistic Coach<p>Once you’ve unmasked, you’re going to find new relationships that are attracting the kinds of people that your unmasked self really resonates with. </p><p><a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/unmasking" class="mention hashtag" rel="tag">#<span>unmasking</span></a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/AutisticMasking" class="mention hashtag" rel="tag">#<span>AutisticMasking</span></a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/ActuallyAutistic" class="mention hashtag" rel="tag">#<span>ActuallyAutistic</span></a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/Autistic" class="mention hashtag" rel="tag">#<span>Autistic</span></a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/Neurodiversity" class="mention hashtag" rel="tag">#<span>Neurodiversity</span></a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/AuDHD" class="mention hashtag" rel="tag">#<span>AuDHD</span></a></p>
Heather Cook🖖Autistic Coach<p>Unmasking is unlearning the damaging ways that we’ve learned to be around people.</p><p><a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/unmasking" class="mention hashtag" rel="tag">#<span>unmasking</span></a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/AutisticMasking" class="mention hashtag" rel="tag">#<span>AutisticMasking</span></a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/ActuallyAutistic" class="mention hashtag" rel="tag">#<span>ActuallyAutistic</span></a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/Autistic" class="mention hashtag" rel="tag">#<span>Autistic</span></a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/Neurodiversity" class="mention hashtag" rel="tag">#<span>Neurodiversity</span></a></p>
Heather Cook🖖Autistic Coach<p>If you try unmasking, and it goes well, and you get a wave of anxiety afterwards: that is an entirely normal reaction.</p><p>It’s not a signal that anything went wrong. It’s a protective strategy that some of our brains are very accustomed to doing.</p><p><a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/AutisticMasking" class="mention hashtag" rel="tag">#<span>AutisticMasking</span></a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/Anxiety" class="mention hashtag" rel="tag">#<span>Anxiety</span></a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/ActuallyAutistic" class="mention hashtag" rel="tag">#<span>ActuallyAutistic</span></a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/Autistic" class="mention hashtag" rel="tag">#<span>Autistic</span></a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/AuDHD" class="mention hashtag" rel="tag">#<span>AuDHD</span></a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/unmasking" class="mention hashtag" rel="tag">#<span>unmasking</span></a></p>
Heather Cook🖖Autistic Coach<p>As you’re unmasking and renegotiating existing relationships, people need to know what’s going on inside you, why you’re changing, and what that means for them.</p><p><a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/AutisticMasking" class="mention hashtag" rel="tag">#<span>AutisticMasking</span></a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/unmasking" class="mention hashtag" rel="tag">#<span>unmasking</span></a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/ActuallyAutistic" class="mention hashtag" rel="tag">#<span>ActuallyAutistic</span></a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/Autistic" class="mention hashtag" rel="tag">#<span>Autistic</span></a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/Neurodiversity" class="mention hashtag" rel="tag">#<span>Neurodiversity</span></a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/AuDHD" class="mention hashtag" rel="tag">#<span>AuDHD</span></a></p>